Some adults share how they would handle a spouse who lies.
I can’t deal –B.B.
It is a no-no for me; I can’t cope with a lying spouse. I will completely avoid it because such people can’t change. Of what good is a relationship with someone that lies? You can’t package a lying woman and such an attitude will definitely show while dating. She can’t just start displaying it in marriage. So, before it even leads to marriage, I’m out.
I will lose trust in her – V.O.
For me, I can’t cope with a lying spouse because I will lose trust in everything she says. The union will collapse immediately I notice lies. I’ll try as much as I can to not take anything she says seriously because her words and actions will become trivial to me. I think that will enable me to maintain my sanity of mind.
I won’t blame myself for his misbehaviour – J.O.
Firstly, I will review his lying pattern and I will try not to blame myself for his misbehaviour. After assessing the situation and how it has affected our relationship, then I will seek professional help so that we can work things out as a couple.
Pray for them – L.G.
If they acknowledge every time they lie and do not make you, as the other spouse, feel like the one at fault or make you feel like you’re overreacting to things, then you know such a person is making effort. One major way to deal with that is to pray for them and seek counsel or therapy, while believing that God will change them, because we as humans cannot change them. Then the other spouse has to help them make conscious efforts to drop the habit.
Catch him red-handed – C.O.
First of all, I will try to study his lying pattern to know when, why and how he lies. When I know these things, it will help me to know my next step. Then, I will catch him red-handed with evidence because they will never accept that they have lied. Then, we will have a one-on-one conversation and try as much as possible to let the past be the past and just move forward. There is always an explanation for such actions and I’d just hope we can work things out.
